Let’s face it.  Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad or depressed.  If we choose to hang on to them we will never move forward and we could even create physical or mental damage to our bodies.  To prevent this from happening we need to let go but no one really tells you how to let go and move forward.  It’s very easy to say: “Just let go, move forward, forget about it, just let go.” but that rarely works for anyone.

Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward.

Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant.  When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it, and when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent yourself from healing.  How many pleasant memories do you recall everyday?  Chances are you’re like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you’re holding on to, which is preventing you from moving forward.

The more negativitiy you carry, the worse life gets.  Why?  Because you’ve filled your mind with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that doesn’t allow you to move forward, in short, you’re carrying unhelpful, heavy baggage that’s really slowing you down.

Think of it this way: you’re on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don’t serve you well.  After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of them, you will never complete your trip.

To let go you have to focus your mind on different goals and different objectives.  It’s not about dwelling on the negative stuff that you need to park to one side, if you really want to start moving on then you have to focus your mind on new things.  In this process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down.

How to Let Go and Move Forward

Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell to the point where these thoughts have a negative effect on your physical and mental health.

Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life in ways you are not even aware of.  Ask yourself these questions: Do the negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose?  Do they help you move forward?  Do they work in your favour in any way?  If you said no to any, or all of these, then tell yourself this:  This emotion/feeling doesn’t help me so I’m letting it go and focusing on what is important, positve and will serve me well.  Then begin focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can improve your life.  This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and will stop you building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attract more negative situations!  When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations.

The next step is to create an action plan, the past is over.  Where do you want to go now and how do you plan to get there?  You may not have the answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions.

The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then will bring you the opportunities to move forward.

The final step is to live in the present moment, to start living in the NOW.  Living in the now is different than living for the moment.  Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment.  Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial.  When you are here now you can be nowhere else.  You are not hanging on to something, you are here now.  I know some of you may think the following: “But where I am right now is awful, and therfore I don’t want to think about it”.  It’s only awful because you’re looking at all the negative things going on.  Focus on a few of the positive things, anything from nature to the wonderful family and friends that you may have.  This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your subconscious mind that you’re ready for new possibilities.  Then, and only then, you’ll begin to let go and move forward.

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